Welcome to this week's edition of G.R.O.W., where Guidance truly Redefines Our Way. As we navigate the complex landscape of modern relationships, I'm excited to bring you expert insights that could transform your approach to finding meaningful connections in 2025.

First, let me be transparent: while I'm not a dating expert, my role as a certified DISC Assessor has given me unique insights into how personality types influence our relationships and communication styles. That's precisely why I've added renowned behavioral scientist and dating expert Logan Ury to provide comprehensive, research-backed guidance for your dating journey.

The timing couldn't be more relevant. As we enter 2025, the dating landscape continues to evolve at an unprecedented pace. Think about this: over 60 million Americans are currently navigating online dating platforms, with industry revenues projected to reach $1.39 billion. Tinder alone generates approximately $1 billion globally, highlighting how technology has transformed our search for connection.

But what's truly fascinating is how the dating landscape has shifted in 2024-2025. We've witnessed the rise of AI-powered matching, video-first dating approaches, and a growing emphasis on authentic connections over quick swipes. The post-pandemic era has permanently altered how we view relationships, with many seeking deeper, more meaningful connections from the start.

This is where Logan Ury's expertise becomes invaluable. As the host of Netflix's "The Later Daters" and a former behavioral science researcher at Google, Logan brings a unique blend of scientific insight and practical wisdom to the dating world. Her research-based approach has helped thousands make better dating decisions by understanding their patterns and blind spots. In this issue, she'll share exclusive insights from navigating dating apps to building authentic connections in our digital age.

Whether you're new to dating, returning to the scene, or helping others navigate their relationship journeys, this issue of G.R.O.W. combines Logan's expertise with practical DISC assessment insights to help you better understand yourself and potential partners. We'll explore how different personality types approach relationships, decode modern dating trends, and share success stories from various age groups and backgrounds.

Let's begin this journey together, using science and heart to guide our way to meaningful connections.

Michael R. Morgan, President/Founder, A Few Good MENtors, Inc. and Editor of G.R.O.W.

"Understanding yourself is the beginning of all wisdom." - Aristotle

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GROWTH GATEWAY

The Science of Modern Love - Understanding Yourself First

Know Yourself: The DISC Advantage in Dating

Understanding your personality through DISC assessment isn't just a professional tool—it's your secret weapon in dating. The DISC model (Dominance, Influence, Steadiness, and Conscientiousness) provides invaluable insights into communicating, making decisions, and interacting with others.

Your DISC Profile: The Foundation of Authentic Dating

Each DISC profile brings unique strengths and potential challenges to relationships:

D (Dominance)

• Dating Strengths: Direct communication, decisive about what they want

• Potential Challenges: May come across as too aggressive or impatient

• Dating Tip: Practice active listening and show appreciation for different perspectives

I (Influence)

• Dating Strengths: Naturally charismatic, excellent at breaking the ice

• Potential Challenges: Might overwhelm quieter personalities or avoid deeper conversations

• Dating Tip: Focus on developing deeper connections beyond the initial charm

S (Steadiness)

• Dating Strengths: Loyal, patient, and excellent listeners

• Potential Challenges: It may take too long to express feelings or needs

• Dating Tip: Practice being more forthcoming about expectations and desires

C (Conscientiousness)

• Dating Strengths: Thoughtful, analytical approach to relationship building

• Potential Challenges: Might overanalyze situations or appear distant

• Dating Tip: Balance analysis with emotional expression

The Psychology of Dating-App Fatigue

Recent studies show that 45% of dating app users report feeling exhausted by the process. Understanding your DISC profile can help combat this fatigue:

• D profiles: Set clear boundaries for app usage and be selective about matches

• I profiles: Focus on quality conversations over quantity of matches

• S profiles: Create a structured approach to prevent overwhelm

• C profiles: Develop criteria for matches that align with your values

Breaking Down Dating Blind Spots

Logan Ury's research reveals that our biggest dating obstacles often come from within. Here's how different DISC profiles typically experience blind spots:

Common Blind Spots by Profile:

• D Types: May dismiss potential partners who don't immediately impress

• I Types: Might prioritize chemistry over compatibility

• S Types: Could stay in unfulfilling situations for too long

• C Types: Risk missing connections while seeking "perfect" matches

Building Authentic Connections in a Digital Age

The key to success lies in aligning your digital presence with your authentic DISC profile:

Profile Creation Strategies:

For D Profiles:

• Highlight your ambitions and direct communication style

• Show your softer side through interests and hobbies

For I Profiles:

• Let your natural enthusiasm shine through

• Include specific examples of meaningful relationships

For S Profiles:

• Emphasize your loyalty and caring nature

• Share your ideal pace for relationship development

For C Profiles:

• Demonstrate your thoughtfulness and depth

• Include specific interests that showcase your expertise

Expert Insight: Logan Ury's Perspective

"Understanding your personality type through tools like DISC assessment," Logan explains, "gives you a tremendous advantage in modern dating. It's not about changing who you are—it's about leveraging your natural strengths while being mindful of potential blind spots."

Key Statistics Worth Noting:

• 72% of couples who understand their personality types report better communication

• Relationships where partners understand each other's communication styles are 58% more likely to succeed

• 84% of successful couples report that self-awareness was crucial to their relationship development

Action Steps for Each Profile Type

1. D Profiles: Schedule dedicated time for dating app engagement to avoid rushing

2. I Profiles: Create a checklist of meaningful questions to ask potential matches

3. S Profiles: Set personal deadlines for making dating decisions

4. C Profiles: Limit research time on matches to avoid analysis paralysis

Remember, understanding your DISC profile isn't about boxing yourself in—it's about expanding your awareness and enhancing your ability to form meaningful connections. In our next section, we'll explore how different DISC profiles can successfully navigate the world of senior dating.

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INSIGHT EXCHANGE

Dating Wisdom Across Generations

Expert Interview: Logan Ury on Modern Dating Dynamics

On a recent episode of the Mel Robbins podcast, Logan Ury shared groundbreaking insights about dating in 2025:

"The biggest mistake I see across all age groups is what I call 'The Optimization Trap'—constantly searching for something better instead of investing in promising connections. This is particularly relevant in the age of endless dating app choices."

Key takeaways from the podcast:

• Focus on "relationship values" rather than "dating checklists"

• Practice intentional dating rather than passive swiping

• Invest time in developing emotional intelligence

• Recognize that chemistry can grow over time

Silver Love: A Guide to Senior Dating in 2025

The New Landscape of Senior Dating

The dating landscape for seniors has transformed dramatically. With over 19 million Americans over 65 now using dating apps, digital platforms increasingly cater to mature daters. Popular apps like Our Time and Silver Singles have seen a 40% increase in user engagement since 2024.

Safety First: Digital Dating for Seniors

Essential safety tips for senior daters:

• Verify profiles through video calls before meeting

• Choose public locations for initial meetings

• Keep financial information private

• Trust your instincts and take things slowly

• Use platforms specifically designed for senior dating

Success Story: Margaret and Robert's Journey

Margaret (72) and Robert (68) met through a senior dating app in early 2024. "I was hesitant at first," Margaret shares, "but understanding my DISC profile helped me communicate my needs clearly from the start." As an 'S' profile, Margaret appreciated Robert's 'C' profile approach to taking things slowly and methodically.

The DISC Factor in Relationship Success

Understanding Compatibility Through DISC

Research shows that successful relationships often involve complementary DISC profiles. Here's how different combinations typically work:

D + I Combinations

• Strengths: Dynamic energy, goal-oriented approach

• Challenges: Potential power struggles

• Success Strategy: Establish clear communication boundaries

S + C Combinations

• Strengths: Thoughtful decision-making, stable foundation

• Challenges: Possible analysis paralysis

• Success Strategy: Set gentle deadlines for decisions

I + S Combinations

• Strengths: Balance of enthusiasm and stability

• Challenges: Pace differences in relationship progression

• Success Strategy: Regular check-ins about comfort levels

Real-World Applications

Janet (67, I Profile) shares: "Understanding I was an 'I' profile helped me recognize why I sometimes enthusiastically overwhelmed my dates. Now I consciously balance my natural exuberance with more listening time."

Dating App Success Stories Across Age Groups

The Multi-Generational Perspective

Success stories from different age brackets reveal common themes:

50-60 Age Group:

• Focus on shared life experiences

• Value authentic connections over superficial matches

• Appreciate direct communication about relationship goals

60-70 Age Group:

• Emphasis on companionship and shared interests

• Greater clarity about relationship expectations

• Value independence while seeking connection

70+ Age Group:

• Prioritize emotional connection and companionship

• Appreciate traditional dating approaches combined with modern technology

• Value family integration in relationship development

Communication Strategies Based on DISC Profiles

Effective First Date Conversations

For each DISC profile, successful conversation starters:

D Profile Daters:

• "What accomplishments are you most proud of?"

• "What are your goals for the next few years?"

I Profile Daters:

• "Tell me about your most memorable travel experience."

• "What brings you the most joy in life?"

S Profile Daters:

• "How do you like to spend your quiet time?"

• "What traditions are important to you?"

C Profile Daters:

• "What interests do you pursue most deeply?"

• "How do you approach making important decisions?"

Expert Insight: Building Lasting Connections

Logan Ury emphasizes: "Understanding your DISC profile isn't about limiting yourself—it's about approaching relationships with greater self-awareness and empathy. This is particularly valuable for senior daters who often understand what they want in a partner."

Looking Forward: Trends in Senior Dating

Emerging trends for 2025:

• Rise of AI-powered compatibility matching specifically for seniors

• Increased focus on shared values over traditional matching criteria

• Growing popularity of group dating events for seniors

• Integration of video profiles for enhanced safety and authenticity

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BRIDGE BUILDERS

Breaking the Ice Without Freezing Up!

A Quick Note from Your Editor

Full disclosure – I'm married and have never swiped right or left in my life! Everything I'm sharing comes from our dating experts, research, and outstanding community members navigating the modern dating scene. Think of me as your curious friend here to help share valuable insights from those who know best!

Why Is Starting That First Conversation So Hard?

Let's be honest – you've matched with someone amazing. They love the same obscure band you do, they have an adorable dog, and their travel photos are amazing. But now comes the tricky part: starting that first conversation.

As our expert Logan Ury points out, you're no longer competing with a few other singles at a local coffee shop. You're one of potentially hundreds of matches in someone's inbox. No pressure, right?

The Art of the Opening Message

Step 1: Do Your Homework

Before sending that first message, take a deeper look at their profile. You might have swiped right because of their cute smile, but what else can you learn about them?

• Look for specific interests or hobbies

• Notice any unique photos or locations

• Spot any interesting prompts or answers

• Find potential conversation starters

Step 2: Crafting Your Opening Line

Here are some proven approaches that our community members swear by:

The Personal Touch: "I noticed the concert poster in your background – are you a fan of [band name]? Their latest album is incredible!"

The Shared Interest Approach: "Fellow hiking enthusiast here! Have you tried the new trail at [location]? The views are amazing!"

The Thoughtful Question: "Your photo in Tokyo caught my eye – what was your favorite unexpected discovery there?"

When Things Get Awkward (Because They Will!)

Even the smoothest talkers have their moments! Here's how to recover:

If the conversation stalls:

• Try a new topic: "Hey, random question – what's the last show you binged that you couldn't stop talking about?"

• Use the reset button: "Let's start fresh! Tell me something interesting that happened to you today."

If your joke falls flat:

• Own it gracefully: "Well, that joke wasn't my best material. How about we pretend I said something brilliantly witty instead?"

Foolproof Conversation Starters

Keep these in your back pocket for when you need a conversation boost:

1. Light-hearted debates:

   • "Controversial opinion: pineapple belongs on pizza. Thoughts?"

   • "Which is superior: dogs or cats? (Choose carefully!)"

2. Hypothetical scenarios:

   • "If you could have dinner with any three people, dead or alive, who would they be?"

   • "What superpower would you choose and why?"

3. This or That questions:

   • "Beach vacation or mountain adventure?"

   • "Morning person or night owl?"

When to Move On

Remember what our expert Logan Ury says – not every match will lead to a date, and that's okay! Moving on is fine if someone isn't responding or the conversation feels one-sided. There are plenty of other profiles in the digital sea!

Looking Ahead

Remember these key takeaways:

• Be genuine in your approach

• Show interest in their profile details

• Ask open-ended questions

• Don't be afraid to show your personality

• Keep it light and fun

• When in doubt, ask about their pets!

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Good News

Sisters Create Revolutionary Dating App for Disabled Community

In a heartwarming story of innovation and inclusion, sisters Jacqueline and Alexa Child have created Dateability, a groundbreaking dating app designed specifically for the disabled and chronically ill communities. The app, launched in October 2022, has attracted nearly 14,000 users across North America and is changing lives one match at a time.

The inspiration behind Dateability came from Jacqueline's own challenging experiences with dating apps after becoming disabled at age 14 due to chronic illness. After facing numerous discouraging experiences on mainstream dating apps, including ghosting and insensitive questions, Jacqueline shared her frustrations with her sister Alexa, a legal aid lawyer. Together, they decided to create a solution.

What makes Dateability unique is its thoughtful design. The app includes features like "Dateability Deets," allowing users to naturally disclose their conditions using broad terms like neurodivergent or immunocompromised. The platform also incorporates accessibility features such as profile image descriptions for visually impaired users.

The success stories are already rolling in. One particularly touching story involves a user in his 30s on the autism spectrum who found his girlfriend through the app - they live in the same city and share similar experiences. Another couple who met on the app despite living 900 miles apart are now moving in together.

A Platform for Everyone

What's particularly noteworthy about Dateability is its inclusive approach - it's free to use and open to everyone, including non-disabled individuals. As Alexa notes, "We don't believe that disabled people should only date other disabled people... love can be found in all relationships."

This initiative represents more than just another dating app - it's a testament to how understanding, innovation, and compassion can create meaningful solutions for communities traditionally underserved in the digital dating space.

Looking Forward

As we wrap up 2024, stories like this remind us that positive change often starts with personal experience and a desire to help others. The success of Dateability shows that there's always room for innovation in the dating world, especially when making connections more accessible and inclusive for everyone.

WRAPPING UP and LOOKING AHEAD

Dear G.R.O.W. Community,

As we end this week's exploration of modern dating and meaningful connections, thank you for joining us. Your continued engagement and support make this newsletter a vibrant platform for sharing knowledge and building community.

Key Takeaways from This Issue:

• The importance of authentic connections in the digital age

• Practical strategies for starting meaningful conversations

• Inspiring innovations making dating more inclusive

• The value of being genuine in our search for connection

Looking Forward: Our Special Christmas Edition!

I'm excited to announce that our next issue will be our final newsletter for 2024, and we're planning something extra special for the holiday season! Our Christmas edition will be filled with:

• Heartwarming community stories

• Holiday traditions and celebrations

• Special year-end reflections

• Preview of what's coming in 2025

Mark your calendars - you won't want to miss this festive finale of our year together!

Until next time, remember that every connection starts with a single step forward. Whether dating, mentoring, or simply connecting with others, your authenticity is your greatest strength.

With gratitude,

Michael Morgan President/Founder, A Few Good MENtors, Inc. Editor, G.R.O.W. Newsletter

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